I can sense your frustration, and I've experienced similar lack of effort.

The same person who every day empties the dishwasher can't seem to remember where to put the items when loading it the same night. For over 20 years.

I find myself hiding my dirty laundry so it doesn't get ruined in the washer or put away wrinkled.

Then there's coworkers...

I wonder, does your husband ever do anything the right way? If so, it would be good to offer praise as you would to a clumsy child.

As well, if there's something he wants you to do, you could claim to be too busy hanging dresses and folding leggings because "if I don't do it, no one else will," or "these leggings won't fold themselves."

Do you have the means to hire someone to provide the help you need, or can a family member or friend provide the help?

Maybe just remember to breathe...