This is a husband / man trait. There are several you tube channels and tick tocks that address it. As women put their notes together they realize this is a common way for males to get out of work and avoid conflict.

I even find it at work. My boss, who got to the position because he is clearly an expert in the field... constantly plays dumb so I will do things for him. It is his way to avoid telling me to do something and being the bad guy.

We have to be able to call this behavior out and that it is far more common with men before we get shamed for painting with a broad brush.