Can relate!

They twist your words and use it as an excuse to violate your boundaries. They punish you for setting boundaries by deliberately going all the way to the other extreme. Which isn’t healthy either, and they know it, but now they can say you’ll complain no matter what they do. You call them out on smothering you at a time when you’re doing fine. You don’t need help. Yet they’re getting in your business and trying to make your decisions for you, and you’re perfectly capable of taking care of yourself, thank you. Then the next time you do need help, as we all do sometimes, “Oh, but I thought you could take care of yourself!” They’ll never help you again, no matter how legitimately you need it, unless you eat crow and agree to hand over total control of you again. It’s all or nothing.

Like that endless string of nonsense nit-picky questions. If you get frustrated, they flip the script on you. “Well, I’m not a mind reader! How do you expect me to know what you want me to do if you won’t tell me?” And here you are, telling them as plain as day, but they’re deliberately not hearing and understanding. They *know* what they’re doing.

Which leads to the next game in line: pushing you to the end of your rope, then when you finally react, you’re the problem. Now any further discussion is all about you being angry instead of about them provoking you.