I used to vent a lot around my h but I didn’t realise it was upsetting him - I’m trying not to do that now. I actually think I’m my case venting had become a way of feeding my anger and it wasn’t solving it.

For me the anger is usually a surface emotion and there’s normally something underlying it - I try to acknowledge and address these other emotions at their core. I also notice I’m calmer when I work on keeping myself grounded, exercise, eating properly, reading, that sort of thing.