I just had an insight about something. When L & I scheduled for this Friday, I reminded her it was the day after Thanksgiving and said it's okay if you end up needing to cancel (since she's done that before when we've scheduled on that day). She said "Stop taking care of me" and insisted she would be working. What just hit me was, when I said that, I actually was taking care of ME - not her - because if she works when she's not feeling up to it, then I won't get her best therapist self, and I'm greedy, that's what I want, that's what I need (and of course that's what I'm paying for besides). I wish I'd realized that at the time of the conversation. I always think of important things after the fact...