Agreed that moving causes stress but using you shirt to blow the kids nose? C'mon, what was he thinking?

I can sympathize with you though. I was recently in a relationship where my g/f and I fought all the time. I tried to get her to go to counseling but she never did (although I did). She didn't think it would help. (I still don't understand that line of thinking) And she didn't think it was her with a problem.

Long story short, we split up. I can only hope for better for you. At 51 years old, it still ain't no fun...

Best of luck though......