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Originally Posted by jesyka
To be taught that it’s NOT OK to bully & fat shame me specifically. She targeted me for sure.
It’s obvious that she’s a bully. Bullying IS against H.R policy. In the plus sized department she kept repeating the phrase big momma, big momma to many times to count.
Why else would she go on & on about being petite & skinny & small. She was not referring to the department, but herself specifically.
It was disgusting. I felt like she was expecting me to tell her that she looks great or something with the way she talked & acted.
Anyone would. She was rubbing it in my face that ‘I’m the big fat momma & she’s the perfect petite lady.
I’m livid! I hate bullies. How dare she do that to me.
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We already established that calling a department “big momma” was very wrong. She herself acknowledged that it’s wrong.
She didn’t bully you though. You keep saying that you “think” she feels this or that. Your thoughts and feelings are valid but they aren’t facts. You can’t make reports for something you feel other people might be thinking about you.
You think and feel all kind of negative thoughts about many people. You can’t be punished for that because those are just your thoughts. But with this woman you don’t even know what she’s thinking. You just assume
She could actually feel insecure about her weight the same way you are insecure about yours. That’s why maybe she talks about it. Same with being petite. Finding petite clothes is hard. Maybe that’s why she’s talking about it.
Of course you could report people for anything and everything but would it make you happy? HR would likely ask why do you think she was talking about you and your weight? Are you going to say “I think she was talking about me”? That’s just not how it works.