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Originally Posted by RDMercer
Hi Albatross!
Yes, for some people, self reflection and self-awareness is difficult.
I'm so impressed to see you recognize that it's present in your DH without villainizing him, and actually speaking from a place of empathy..... Frustration for sure.... But still empathetic.
I think you just need someone to see and validate what your experiences are. You aren't hoping to leave at this time.
This has to be very hard at times for you.
RDMercer
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Thank you very much. Anyone at all villainizing him is a sore spot for me. That includes his past relationships who have on occasion spoken like he’s cruel and overly controlling. Not true of him. I can sometimes see why they would think that, but I have looked beneath the surface and I have found it not to be true. After my experience with my first marriage, if I thought he was abusive, I would leave. We all have character flaws we need to work on.
Yes, he is often unaware of his actions and attitudes, and how they affect others. Evil or abusive, he is not. Frustrating, he certainly can be. Yoda, I’m starting to sound like.