I don't know if this is quite what you're talking about, but you might want to look into the four subtypes of BPD. One of them, and a really common one, is "quiet BPD." The others are petulant, impulsive, and self-destructive.
4 Borderline Personality Subtypes: Discouraged or "Quiet", Petulant, Impulsive, & Self-Destructive - YouTube
Here's a video explaining the four types, and you can have one domineering but have traits of the others.
Dr. Daniel Fox has a lot of really good videos on BPD