I have moved this because i can't stand it - everyone's all sad that theyr dad died and i am sitting with so much rage, i can't possibly rant about it when they are greiving. please accept that i moved my post to where it should have been in the first place and ppl will totally understand.

Well, the day is upon us.
my dad's mom finally called my mom and asked if i would be sending him anything.
in my opinion, celebrating father's day is for those men who are actually *good* people and parents. just because he was the Sp*rm donor doesn't quailify him.
His mom told my mom that this "rift" between us is only a misunderstanding, miscommunication.
she has no idea - well, she should - she was THERE. but she'll always protect the abusive *%&$^.
If I did send a card it would go something like this:
Dear _______,
I am writing yo because I have to - because our society mandates it. But what I would really tell you is that you are so messed up, so loco in the cabasa, that I cannot have any contact with you any further. I know you think I am a bad person for this, and further more that you think you are the Father of all Fathers. But that is so far from the truth.
No "good" father would ever violate his daughter's boundaries. No good person would ever bring inc*st on their kids. Or harm kids in any way. Quite frankly, you deserve this - to have me never talk to you again. You deserve to be in jail for the rest of your life for the 12 years of sex abuse and 28 years of emotional and physical abuse that you caused me as well as my mom and your own mom. I can't believe you can still think of your self as a good person, after all you have done.

i can't continue this.