yes, its a tough age. she is a great kid who is struggling and trying to figure out how to feel better. yes, she has had therapy for the last two years, one-on-one therapy, group therapy, two inpatient stays. my understanding is dbt was incorporated in all the therapy.

a frustration is communicating a "no" to her and enforcing boundaries. i go back and forth in my mind about where to draw the line. sometimes she doesnt have an off button. if i tell her no about something, she takes it very hard, like everything depends on it. even if shes already been doing something for days. she will avoid responsibilities for days, weeks, months.

she wanted 4 kids to stay the night. thankfully only 2 did. they showed up early in the day, when she would have been doing schoolwork, but she will not really do schoolwork right now. i said that is fine, but that i wanted everyone to leave by 1pm the next day. i held to the 1pm cutoff. Normally she'd be very irritated at me by this i think, but after 24 plus straight hours wih people in her space, she was worn down to a nub. slept most the rest of the day.