I have a nineteen year old son with ADHD and bipolar who has no motivation. He doesn't use drug or alcohol. All he wants to do is read or play video games and chat with his friends on the phone/computer.

I told him months ago I expect him to find a full or part-time job this summer and he should start looking in May. He didn't of course. He picked up an application for Game Stop but has had it a week and doesn't even have it filled out yet.

I have a consequence box where video games and stuff goes when he breaks an important rule. That has helped some with his defiance but not with his procrastination.

Also his sleep is erratic. Sometimes he is up all night and sometimes he will sleep for sixteen hours. I have been telling his psychiatrist about the sleep for a year and only last month did he prescribe a sleep aid. It has not made a big difference yet.

I made the rule that he could not play video games after midnight when he was in school. He still had trouble sleeping. I think he may have sleep apnea as he snores loudly but I can't afford $2000 for a test at the sleep lab (no insurance).

I feel like I need to be tougher but I want to be fair. Any suggestions?