autism has never come up. they diagnosed her with ptsd before, and general anxiety disorder, and severe depression.

we have her in an online school, where they work at their own pace. she goes about 5 hours in person a week. she hasnt done any schoolwork all november. she avoided most of it all october, and crammed it all in the last week. she has gone in person 4 times. she was doing in person school before that, and not able to get to school, or stay at school due to anxiety. she is on six medications right now. though two are new in the last few weeks, and one is a replacement for her prior depression medication. she wants to take all the medications but also feels numb and empty from them.

i allowed the sleepover, though i wasnt sure she was ready for it. she said it was worth it and glad it happened, but has been sleeping most of the last two days. i asked her to do the dishes that she and her friends dirtied while they were here, and she brought them to the sink yesterday but wont do them. says she will do it tomorrow. says she is too tired. i said maybe we need to not do sleepovers until she is more recovered. better to have friends leave at a decent hour. they were smoking pot in her bedroom at 2am, i smelled it and called up there saying to stop immediately.

this afternoon, i had mentioned getting the]dishes done (maybe 15 minute tops of dishes). she said after her movie. she started seeming sleepy. i said please pause the movie and do it now, if you think you will fall asleep. she said no she wouldnt. i also mentioned us doing 20 minutes of school work. she fell asleep.

this is what happens all the time. i get "sold" or told something that she needs, and i support her, maybe i'll make a condition based on past experiences, and she'll agree, but rarely follows through without a lot of asking on my part. she will delay the simplest thing for several days.
i end up blaming myself for everything.

now i'm thinking its because she thinks i don't want to support her to go residential. (even though its like this a lot aside from talk about residential) yet i havent even been able to talk to her about it because she is either with friends, sleeping, or distracting all weekend.

shes very depressed, and right now i feel like i have no ability to help her on a better path. we end up talking about dishes. by the way, ive done the dishes for her 1000 times