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Old Dec 04, 2023, 07:51 PM
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Originally Posted by unaluna View Post
To continue was divine is saying, telling someone to take a nap or drink some coffee so they can stay up later to accommodate you would be my definition of boundary-crossing. You dont get to tell me what to do with my body. Even just suggesting it. That could be why she was burping and farting - she felt violated but didnt know how to express it verbally.
That’s what I was trying to say too.

I recently developed high blood pressure (genetics mostly). Telling me to drink more coffee so I can drive friends to parties and stay late would be upsetting to me. No one in my entire life asked me such a thing. Drinking more coffee to stay late at shows as we get older is just not a smart move. Also even if it’s a weekend, it doesn’t mean I am not tired or have no other obligations or have ton of free time taking naps. Many people can’t nap. I can’t sleep during the day.

There have been many occasions when someone else drove me or we did car pool with friends. Never ever no one asked a driver to stay up late and inconvenience themselves and jeopardize their health so someone can party late. Never ever happened. And I have pretty active social life.