Dear T,
I may need to go into risky territory with you next week. No, not the love stuff. Maybe you'd prefer that? I don't know.

But I have that problem where I have a bit of information--the same information I've had for like 5 years, including your wife's posting in that group, nothing new. And I'm wondering whether some of your reaction to things I was talking about with D today is related to stuff that happened regarding your son.

I don't want to ask about what's going on with your son now (despite curiosity)--I want to make that clear--but I want to make sure you're aware of how what may have been your personal experience with similar things could be biasing your reactions to me in some ways. Like, am I pursuing similar things that your wife was--and you're reacting to how that affected her--when they didn't work out, maybe? Or were you on board at the time, and you were let down, so it's about that? Or maybe it's about something else--a friend, relative, client?

I feel like this particular elephant has been sitting patiently in the corner of the room for a long time, and now he's suddenly demanding attention. I just hope we can address that without any serious fallout, especially right before the holidays.

Love,
LT