I met my friend in college seven years ago. We were staying in the same dorm and we hit it off almost immediately. While we never had any classes together, we would still get together and have lunch whenever we could. But as time went on we both graduated. She moved out of state and I moved back to my hometown. We still stayed in touch even as our schedules became more hectic but eventually, she would stop answering my texts. This started to affect me emotionally, especially since 2023 has been a HORRIBLE year for me and I really could have used her support. In late September, I decided to send her a message saying that she was being a bad friend by ignoring me. She responded with the message that she was going through a rough time as well and that I needed to give her space. I conceded that I was wrong and we haven’t spoken since then. But the more I think about it, the more I’m not okay with her pushing me aside. I gave her moral support when she finished her master’s degree, but she can’t do the same when my entire life has practically fallen apart?

I know I’ve badmouthed my friend for most of this post, but she’s not a bad person. Not in the slightest. She’s an absolutely beautiful person, both inside and out. And that’s why I’m so upset with her treatment of me. Strong friendships have been a rarity in my life. Either I moved away or they moved away, they started treating me like **** for no good reason, or they just cut all contact without as much as a goodbye. I don’t want to happen here. Is there anything I can do to mend the relationship or should I simply move on?