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eskielover · Dec 10, 2023, 04:22 PM

In my 70 years of life there has been a "season" for many friendships as life changes & individuals change. Life moves on in a different direction & friendships really moves on too for many people.

Seriously

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In late September, I decided to send her a message saying that she was being a bad friend by ignoring me.

comes across as very JUDGMENTAL since you had no clue what was going on in her life & sounded like you were only interested in your need & not really interested in her at all. If I were very busy dealing with serious issues of my own, that text would just push me away from a friendship rather than bring me back to it.

I actually had a similar situation....my horse was really sick & her care took all the energy I had. I had a friend that was moving & had always helped her with moves before but was way too busy to volunteer & had been so busy I hadn't even communicated with her in months. The one time she called right before the move was the day my horse was having a biopsy an hour away at the equine hospital I needed to get to to be there after her surgery. No time to talk. Friend was busy getting settled in her new place even farther away. My horse didn't survive late that night I went back to be with her. I was hurting & seriously didn't want to talk to anyone.....she never called back, I never called back & at that point we just seemed to go our separate ways. There were issues I had been having with her before that & just didn't want to deal with them with evwrything else going on in my life & knowing her personality so it was just easier for both of us to just go off in our own directions & some friendships just do that....friendships aren't something that can be forced by either side & growing apart sometimes can just be normal