Of course life is unpredictable. Today could be any of our last day alive. We don't know. But we live by hopes and dreams and plans. That's what we base our tomorrow's on. So I don't think I need to work on the unpredictability of life... It when someone else's plans never included you and you don't know where you stand. It's when your plans are different than your loved one's. It's feeling stuck. I think this whole situation needs to be processed, preferably with L since she holds the other half of the plans. But in the meantime, I hope to process it some with T. Even just being heard and feelings validated helps. Knowing that yes, life can sometimes be utterly unfair and suck. Doesn't mean the other person needs to change. It's my choice what I want to do.