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Open Eyes · Dec 14, 2023 at 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by DeeeSchmeee68

To give some context, my 31 year old son has addiction issues, adhd and a very bad temper. He behaves like a 15 year old and is on his phone the whole time he has his own 3 year old son. (Whom I watched for him daily when he had temporary custody)

So I was trying to remind him, because he forgets so easily, that he has an allergy to penicillin. Any time at all I try to have an adult conversation or gently suggest (and believe me I way my words carefully with his Temper) he tells me I'm annoying.
I've had it with that constant disrespect. He can't converse his feelings to me or speak to me with a modicum of respect and I'm done.

Yes we could benefit from counseling but he quit going. He's an angry, bitter, immature man just like his father and I'm only venting hoping someone else understands.

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It helps to have more information about your son. However, the conversation you shared that you had with him still shows you are expecting him to give you something he is just not capable of giving. This is especially true for those who have attention deficits as they have a hard enough time sorting through their own challenges. He genuinely doesn’t have the patience to fix any of your emotional problems. So telling him about your fears regarding your health is trying to emotionally blackmail him and that NEVER works with someone that has your son’s challenges. Your son has developed addiction problems because he is trying to escape his own emotional problems. It sounds like his father did the same thing and you and your children suffered from it.