I am wondering about encouragement to be attached and dependent on a therapist. If it contributes to this problem? If you are encouraged dependency, but then are expected to be independent, then it’s a problem. Disconnect.
Do therapists understand that fostering dependency but then taking it away (even for a legitimate reason) is causing a major issue. It’s like they treat you (hypothetically you) like a child but want you to behave like an adult when facing adversity