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Default Dec 17, 2023 at 04:01 PM
 
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Originally Posted by Discombobulated View Post
I did listen to this person a fair bit although not so much in a support dynamic, this most recent friend I mention who doesn’t initiate is nice and a lively sort, but I wonder if I maybe was on occasion nothing more than an audience to her stories. She is an interesting and entertaining person. We kind of bonded over similar humour.

But when I look back she didn’t really ask too many questions about me. So that may be a sign.

Anyhow the one sided friendships angle is one for me to ponder on. Why do I end up with this dynamic so often.

Edit: I realised that I was aware that sometimes she interrupted me when I was saying something, and seemed like she would change the subject. It made me feel like I was boring her. Maybe I was boring her. Yet I didn’t talk excessively.
I’ve had that happen to me plenty of times too with other people. I have often felt like some people just want to use me as a sounding board.

It’s not a healthy dynamic. The fact that she interrupts & doesn’t listen isn’t a good sign.

You deserve better friends than that. I wouldn’t even acknowledge her on FB if she is ignoring you on there too. I’d just unfriend someone like her. You don’t seem like you’re that important to her at all.

Sone people just want an audience or followers.
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