The good thing about what you are sharing is that you are gaining ground in seeing what this man really was/is. What you are really grieving is what you imagined him to be, something you created in your mind about him that you wanted to be real and only for you.

You made a very common mistake in that you fantasized and thought if you hung on the fantasy would become a reality. This man is not capable of becoming a man that will be anyone’s one and only. All he does is act the part to get his ego/needs satisfied.

A big part of growing and maturing is slowly learning to identify the people that are selfish and don’t care the way we want. The hurt feeling is to remind and help us to pay attention and not make the same mistake again.