Hi jamminpianogirl
I think if it is interfering with your own well being, then it's too much. It's hard sometimes to not want to be there for someone every time they need someone, but I do wonder if it becomes enabling. If we weren't there all the time, perhaps they would learn to deal with the crises but have no need to try to regulate their own emotions because they don't need to. They have someone who can do it for them. I would not want or expect someone else to set aside their own mental health or happiness to "save" me every time my emotions got out of control.