Greetings,

I am struggling with the discard from an apparent quiet BPD that I dated for 6 months who fits most of the DSM criteria. He exhibits the signs of choosing a favorite person, avoiding conflict, simmering anger, passive-aggressiveness, past self-harm (drug use), poor self-image, fear of rejection, etc.

I am wondering if anyone else experienced any of the following?

1. He easily offers living together and taking care of me and then doesn't talk about it anymore after first super minor disagreement

2. He goes silent and withdraws and when I asked if everything was OK he immediately reassured me that he loved me even if he didn't show it

3. He said he felt like he wasn't enough and that he had sabotaged relationships in the past

4. On our first date he kissed me and said that he wanted to be whatever he could be for me in my life

5. He sent me photos of the kind of house that he would like to live in together someday

6. He said I made him want to be the best version of himself

7. Everything was great and a few days later he didn't feel in love anymore

Any insights you can share, words of consolation, or similar experiences are welcome!

Ciara