Hey everyone! My first post on here! Normally I'm the one giving my friends advice, but here I am... stuck in a situation that isn't very typical of me at all, and I can't seem to get out.

So as not to ramble about my life story... maybe someone can help me from the "outsider looking in" perspective.

I'm 20. At 17 I met a girl I fell in love with who came from a pretty bad family, and I sort of "rescued" her from it. We dated for 2 years, and spent the last year living together. She then decided it would be a great idea to sleep with her co-worker while I was volunteering at a camp for kids with cancer. So obviously I broke up with her instantly when I got back (her friend let me know about it while I was still away.. she felt bad for me). I trusted my ex 100%, and never thought she would do that to me after everything I did for her. I thought I was over her and the mistrust. I was... well... wrong, and now i'm confused.

I met a girl about 5 months later in a Interpersonal Communications class (I'll elaborate on the irony of that later...) and pretty instantly fell for her. A real pretty red head, who seemed to really have her life in order (something I haven't been used to the last 2 years...). It seemed like such a breathe of fresh air. Then I found out she belongs to a certain religion that I am not super fond of. Either way she seemed more than worth it... so heres my issue. Me and her were getting along so well... finishing eachothers sentences, we had all of the good things in common, and all of the good things to have different were different. I could even go as far as picture a future with this girl...

But she constantly had other guys around... and I found myself not being able to trust her. Not by her fault (although she didn't help matters...) but because of my Ex. The red head wouldn't let me meet these guy friends of hers though... which was hard to getused to. She would hang out with them, and later I would see flirty pictures popping up on her facebook and myspace. Sitting on these guys' laps, etc. And when I ask about it, I'm told "No I really love you! Stop I'm not being flirty with them'...

K so that could have been a lot longer with all the details... but I FEEL like she is playing me, and being flirty with all these other guys. I broke up with her. Like I felt I should. The hurt was huge... but me and her continued to act like we were together, and her behavior continued with the other guys. I just tolerated it. Then I told her I needed distance from her... but she still calls me to tell me about how her night goes- and how she just met these guys and went clubbing etc... she left for a 3 month vacation in Germany, and after leaving wrote me a letter about how she lied to me for about 1 month about one guy who she would sneak off to see all the time, and would tell me she was spending time with her Mom. She wrote the letter because she "felt guilty for lieing to me... and can't forgive herself"... I'm 0-2 so far with girls I really cared about... but this one I can't seem to just throw out of my life like I did with the other one... its really hard I don't know whats wrong with me.

Its making me horribly sad and depressed... my question for everyone being the outsiders...

Am I possibly being over sensitive about who she hangs out with? (She won't let me meet the guys she hangs out with... otherwise I don't think I would mind...)

Why can't I stop answering the phone when she calls? (She is calling from Germany... and even though I KNOW she is going to tell me all about the foreign guys she is meeting... I can't stop answering.)

How do I trust people again? This is getting so hard... I was really crazy about both of the last two... and I know there are plenty of fish in the sea, but I'm really hung up on this one... and I feel like either A: I have too much baggage from my ex, or B: She is doing things to make me jealous and string me along so I don't get over her.

Thank you to anyone who took the time to read this! If anyone has advice on how I can get over this girl (I know the way she treats me is wrong... or I think I know), or maybe how to trust someone again... that would be awesome.

Anyways... thats my short novel. I'm not normally like this. I dont think i'm a bad looking guy, and I'm rarely single... and I certainly don't think I have ever treated anyone I have dated bad... so why can't I just move on past this last one? Why is this so different? Ugh... :P

Seems like an awesome group of folks here! Can't wait to chat with you guys some more!