In my experience, sometimes healing can only happen when we get away from ALL our sources of past hurt (that carry into the present).
I could hardly put a meaningful sentence together before I walked out of my marriage. My daughter had already moved out of state & my mom had died from cancer the year before. Getting away from it all & letting my mind have time to process & heal from the past gave me a whole new life not tied to the past. It was an extreme change & my now ex did not believe I would make it. 16 years later I do love what my life has become