@HauntingPrior493 as everyone else has questioned, why were you two engaged for 10 years and never married? Can I ask you why you’ve stuck around for ten years, knowing your fiancée has no real interest in getting married to you? Now she’s called off the proverbial wedding that has devastated you. I’m very sorry that this happened to you and please post here as much as you need to, as long as it helps you.

I guess I’m wondering if there were other signs over the past 10 years that this relationship wasn’t headed for marriage?

I dated a guy 12 years ago who is exactly like the woman you’ve been with for ten years. He strung me along, and was an expert “future faker” who made lots of promises to me about our future together that never actually materialized. As it turns out, he was cheating on me with his coworker the entire time we were together. I discovered their text messages on New Years Eve while I was cooking. His cellphone was on the kitchen counter and I glanced at it when she texted him a very steamy text message full of innuendo. He denied it until he decided to come clean and broke up with me. Then he went home over Christmas and proceeded to play mindgames with me by texting and calling me — to complain about his family to me. He later married the woman that he cheated on me with.

No one can mindread your fiancee unfortunately. You will need to find the courage to ask her the hard questions. And then, be willing to accept if she truly wants to end the relationship. As it stands from what you’ve written, she’s breadcrumbing you, which manipulative people do when they want attention for their ego boost.

What would happen if you walked away?