I understand having a desire to help and i often succumb to the desire of helping people to lead a better life. But unless someone actually wants to change, there’s no point. And honestly unless they ask for help and are receptive, there is nothing one can do. If your friends decide to enable their children, there is nothing to be accomplished by interfering. I’d stay out if it unless they start this conversation and ask for your advice.

None of my friends have such kids. Their kids either all fine or they don’t have any.

But my husband’s two nephews lived at home not working or going to school well into late 20s. We could never comprehend it. They finally started working (not gainfully but whatever) and moved out. My sister in law likes to be critical of her bother, my husband, yet she thought it’s ok to enable her kids. Bizarre.

Yeah stay out of it if you can help it. I’d not worry about resources. These kids live this way because they can. And they can because parents allow it. No amount of resources would change that