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Originally Posted by jesyka
Sorry to hear that. Some people will definitely judge you for telling them anything that is not 100% positive. You should try to avoid being around people like thst as they are super judgmental. Trying to be positive ALL the time is exhausting.
If you feel like someone is going to judge you or not careabout what you have to say, then don’t tell them anything at all.
If you’re not sure about things, then test the waters a little. Open up about typical gripes like illness or work issues. Or maybe having to deal with traffic or bad wether. Stuff that most people can relate to.
I find that most people tend to be more empathetic towards issues they can relate to.
If you’re dealing with depression for example & talking to someone who’s never had any issues with being depressed, then you’ll be a lot less likely to receive any support or understanding.
Do you have a therapist that you can talk to? It sounds like you need someone to listen to you & offer support without judgement.
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I agree that being positive 100 percent of the time can be exhausting due to having to wear a mask and put on an act. Also I do tend to test the waters with most people and it's very easy to determine who may be okay with some venting and who I avoid venting to at all costs. One of the big signs someone doesn't want to hear venting is if you mention anything that is even remotely negative and they cut the conversation short especially in an abrupt manner. I always make sure to never ever say anything negative around those kinds of people since they clearly don't want to hear it.
Also no I don't talk to a therapist mainly because I don't feel as though my problems are big enough and don't have the money. I also hate burdening other people which is also why I dislike venting even if it's with a therapist and it's also why I always retract what I say too. I'm one of those people who may vent on occasion but then I say that everything is fine the next time I see that same person which sometimes things really are just fine. I don't want people to shy away from me so that's why I always try to be positive despite how exhausting it can be.