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Originally Posted by eskielover
Actually learned to open up a bit in my DBT group. Learned how mostly to try to give an overview, not all the massive details.
After that group, with friends I only said something if it comes up in conversation.
I just got involved in some leadership training for the Celebrate Recovery group that is starting for the community in Jan. 2024. Our small study group is amazing & has bonded so well, we are able to share & talk over everything with each other. Never experienced this before in my life & we all realize we do have many similarities even though different....it is nice to have others who understand to open up to. None of us feel pathetic because we know everyone understands.
Outside of groups like that like I said....only open up when it is part of the conversation & especially when it has been a personal exlerience I have had & the discussion needs some enlightenment cause they seem to have a limited point of view. I was only able to do this once I got to know what I had gone through & the words to express well what my personal experience actually was.....at that point my understanding is expert & I don't feel pathetic because then I am in control of opening up & expressing my personal experience which many times is so different from their unknowledgable perception built in no experience.
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Oh congratulations on joining the group, sounds like a great experience to be a part of and not feel judged. Also I'm the same way in terms of telling people my personal issues, I only talk about things if it's brought up in conversations or if I'm telling my personal experiences as a learning lesson. I've noticed some people are more accepting of hearing negative personal experiences if you talk about it as a learning lesson, I think it's because it involves how you solved or will solve whatever the issue is rather than just simply venting and feeling pathetic in the end. Even then I keep things very light and try not to get too intense about it, I don't want to weird anyone out or push anyone away.