my first wife is a serial cheater she goes from 1 man to the next. shes been married 6 times and her pattern is to jump from 1 house to the next. i was my first real long term relationship so i was naive. she told me she was divorced when we met only to find out they were still married and he had no clue. then she did the same thing to me. i should have left as soon as i found out she lied. the second one was a diagnosed bpd and had the i will leave you before you leave me thinking. Im very affectionate so maybe i can be smothering at times.