we had a long talk tonight i took responsibility for my side of things and i didnt blame her. i let her know about my plans to go to counselling. asked her if she would go. she says there is no point because it wont change her mind and will just give me false hope and waste money. she says she never reached that point of being in love with me like i was with her and she was hoping it would get there but never did. she loves me but isnt in love with me. and nothing will change that. the cards she wrote say she is in love with me but she says she wrote that because she wanted to feel that way and she thought i wanted to hear that. she said we shouldnt have married. she said she has only had that euphoric love with one other person in her life but he ended it.