Yes, I see that it's a difficult situation. Your father's tone has some subtext to it that denigrates you. But also it seems that he's frustrated and perhaps worried about you.

I leave some of my stuff around house. Tools or papers are two examples.

This is what ha[[ens:
I get interrupted when my hands are full, put stuff down and attend to the interruption (cat's water bowl is dirty, dog is acting like he wants to poop immediately, etc.) So when my wife says in a critical tone, "Can I put this stuff in the garage (where I don't want it) I have to refrain from responding with my animal brain, which would yell, "Leave my **** alone!" So instead I take a few breaths and explain why it's there, what happened, and that I'll put it away soon after I finish paying the bills / feeding the cats / doing laundry / etc. I don't always remember to do this -- there is mindfulness involved.