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Originally Posted by Motts
So, its a very one-sided relationship that I deluded myself into thinking was 2 sided. Sometimes it seems two-sided but I guess its not? Otherwise, shed start calling me on her own volition, to ask how Im doing or ask me to hang out. She only used to call me when she needed something (like help her repair her friendship or be the sober driver for her husbands drunkard friend). Maybe I did those things because of my toxic people pleasing and codependency. Because I thought I was proving my worth to her, to her husband. But I learned that I cant prove my worth to them
or to anyone. If someone thinks Im unworthy, nothing I do will convince them to change their mind. Thats a hard pill to swallow. Im embarassed for wasitng so much time. Im 53 now. What do I do with myself?
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That's easy. Go out and live your life. Life is too short to second-guess yourself and trying to enhance relationships that clearly aren't there. You'll see how much time you wasted and can make better decisions about what to do with that time.