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Originally Posted by stopdog
I disagree that the therapist bringing some info about his life is blurring boundaries. First - a lot of people seem to want to know about the therapist (granted - I don't know why) and LT has asked for such disclosure - and it is often couched in ways to trust or feel more secure in therapy. To me that is very different than wanting to tell the therapist how some third person is after surgery. To me it would be different if the client was having surgery - then updating the therapist might make sense. But what would be the point of writing the therapist and saying something like "my husband's surgery was fine" = particularly if one has another appointment where it could be talked about in person. To me that is close family friend/family info. Why not tell a friend instead of the therapist?
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He did say it would make sense if it was my surgery--so I think his headspace and view on this is similar to yours.
For me, it wouldn't be telling therapist instead of a friend, but both.
I do get what you're saying. And I'm not sure what's behind this for me. But I think it's something that I need to address in therapy. Like to figure out what's behind it, why it matters, etc. I wish he'd go in that direction, like, 'Let's examine what's going on here--why does this matter to you? What's it about?" Instead of seeming to shut down and/or suggest it's not appropriate.