He did say it would make sense if it was my surgery--so I think his headspace and view on this is similar to yours.

For me, it wouldn't be telling therapist instead of a friend, but both.

I do get what you're saying. And I'm not sure what's behind this for me. But I think it's something that I need to address in therapy. Like to figure out what's behind it, why it matters, etc. I wish he'd go in that direction, like, 'Let's examine what's going on here--why does this matter to you? What's it about?" Instead of seeming to shut down and/or suggest it's not appropriate.