I agree that explicitly stating things (assuming that you are aware of what you need or want) is most useful. However, to be fair, examining things in this way is a basic aspect of therapy and he really shouldn't need for this to be highlighted to him. If he does need this to be clarified, I would not have any faith that he is skilled enough to do this kind of exploration. He is too caught in the subject of LT's request/need/want to be able to intelligently work with her process (or indeed to be sufficiently aware of his own process in order to keep the focus on LT, but that's a well beaten drum by us all at this point).