Yeah it sounds like they ALMOST get there, but not quite. It's hard to not be jokey (the client). If the t is being jokey, thats very bad. This sounds like the recurring conversation my t and i would have every time he left town and i would invite him to stop by my place on his way back from the airport (which sounds appalling to me now!).

Yeah, its not about him. It's about trying to be in control of those ambiguously seductive scenarios we were put in growing up.