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Originally Posted by unaluna
Dont say that 
T and i returned to the subject many times before we both got it right. But its like what yogi berra said about therory and practice: in theory, theyre the same; in practice, theyre not. Wanting him to ask you what you really mean is getting stuck in theory.
I admitted to last t that i wanted prev t-pdoc to come to family dinners to defend and protect me, to prove my worth. You blaming ex-mc for all his wrongdoings is denial of these feelings, for both him and t. Feelings are not facts. These guys are supposed to be SAFE, thats the point. That may be why it feels like t withdraws - he is showing you safety. But you must still state what you feel. |
Thanks, Una. I feel like Dr. T and I keep inching closer to getting it right. We've had some productive conversations about the "love stuff," for example. I think we both understand the other's point of view much better than we used to, so we can generally mend things more quickly.
Dr. T's email reply suggests he understands what was going on with me yesterday, why I reacted the way I did both in session and my thoughts later that day. Even a couple years ago, he would sometimes be completely mystified as to why something bothered me. So, I think (I hope!) we should be able to work through this pretty quickly, maybe even just using part of Monday's session for it. Though there are larger elements that I think we'll need to talk through at another time.