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Jan 06, 2024, 07:39 PM
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Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Mid World
Posts: 18,089
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Originally Posted by felineangel
was it wrong of me to tell her that greif may never stop flaring up? she was talking about someone else in her life, she's acting as though she really feels his greif should work by her timetable
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Felineangel, each person grieves in their own way, at their own speed. If your friend is trying to force someone else to grieve on a timetable she set she is being unkind.
As for grief flaring up... that's what grief does. Something will happen a person sees something, a person hears something that brings it all crashing back. My best friend of 50 years died a year and a half ago, there are still times I want to share something with her, recommend a book. Then I remember I can't and the grief bites me in the backside.
I'm going to say something harsh about your friend. She is selfish. She wants to control how/when your other friend grieves to meet her needs. You told her you need to take a break and she floods your mailbox. Again, she is putting herself ahead of you. She's trying to take a wrecking ball to the boundary you set.
For your own sake, stop reading her e-mails, don't take her calls. If she gets to you somehow and says she's going to kill herself tell her to call 911, her therapist or her pdoc. It is NOT your responsibility to keep her safe. Don't let her suck you in to caretaking.
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