Hello, the problem does definitely lie deeper. She is desperate for children and thinks that her current age is already too old (31). Her sister was very recently diagnosed with early menopause and i thinknthat has compounded her fears.

I have no issue asking those questions, the issue is that she won't answer them. I am.not blameless in this and i'm not egotisitical enough to think so. The difference is that i am.willing to work on my shortcomings (currently finding a counsellor) whereas she is of the opinion that she has been the same for the 9 year relationship so why should she change