Hello, apologies for the delay in replaying. I misspoke slightly, we were in a relarionship for 9+ years. We got engaged in November 2019. Obviously with Covid it set us back slightly. The hope was marriage in 2025.
After a conversation before the break up, i established that her priorities were - House, child,marriage,dream holiday.

We have had our ups and downs, and we have argues over the years. Now i see those arguments could have potentially been avoided as i always assumed her being dismissive was just that. I guess i was wrong.

I'm sorry that happened to you, i abhor cheating and would have ended the relationship before doing that.
She has questiodned my commitment to our future because i haven't saved enough for her liking.

My only issue with that is, for 4-5 years i was paying all the bills/rent etc as she was either out of work or getting paid peanuts. She doesn't seem to appreciate that. There's ~£14,000 of rent and bills she has not had to pay and now questions my commitment. I also gave my mum jist ahy of £4000 to stop her losing her home. Her response was essentially that i shouldn't have done it🤦*♂️