Hello all, thank you all so much for the replies. There was a slight change over Christmas.

On the 28th, after discussing what we both wanted, she saod we can give it 12 months and see if i stick to my financial commitments with regards to saving for deposit.

Since though, she has been the same as the last month. Closed off, distant and unaffectionate. There were glimpses of old, she hugged me and gave me a kiss before work.

Two days ago she cuddled up to me in bed (Recently she gets as close as possible without actually making contact). Rightly or wrongly, today i asked if she saw me as a partner or a friend, her response was. "At this point i think we are more like mates"

I responded with, that's your POV. When you said we were in a relationship again, intreated it as such. I asked bluntly, "if you don't want a relationship,house and a child with me, just say the word and i won't ask again and we can sort this out properly".

Her response was "i didn't say that". I changed fhe question to, "donyou want these things with me?" I was met with silence ince again.

I left and went for a walk, that was 3 hours ago. She has continued to message about where i am, what i'm doing etc.

I feel like i am being kept there as a friend, to ween her off her love slowly. If i wasn't there (financially not viable) Inwonder if she would think differently. I am her best friend (only friend- her words) I feel like i am being kept close for that reason. As i have said in replies, i'm.not perfect or blameless. I see my flaws and i am.working on them.

She think i am trying to change her. She has been copped upmfor 3 weeks (her choice) sleeping 16 hours a day. I said she might have a touch if depression. She had a go at me because i'm trying "to make her seem like there's something wrong"

Having suffered with depression on and off for years, i can see the signs. I have asked about couples counselling. She refused before i finished the sentence. She had counselling in her youth (physical trauma) which she lied to her therapist and is oddly proud of that. So she now thinks they are useless.

Sorry, just needed to vent. I have been string along for a month and although sje said "she doesn't want to hurt me" she has hurt ke more than if she wpuld have broke up amd just left my life.

Hope you all had a good New year!