Hi,

I would like to voice something, and I could use some insight.

There was money allocated for the kids in an account that we both had access to. She withdrew that money back in May.

In June, she sent me her health insurance card. The card provides reimbursement coverage for most services; you pay up front, and then insurance reimburses you.

I asked repeatedly, over email, how this money would ever reach me, as it would be reimbursed to her bank account. No reply.

Friday, she re-sends the insurance card over email, with her lawyer attached. She tells me the steps to submit something for payment, that I have to call the 1-800 number for assistance, that she had to do the same for my health card for stuff that was not covered "up front", and that she'd provided me all this information back in June.

What it felt like was..... "See? I know you're an idiot and can't figure out how this works. I had to figure it out and I did by calling the 1-800 number. You'll have to do the same."

The thing is.... That was never the issue! The issue was, "Will you assure me that you will return these expenses to me, especially based on the fact that you just took a bunch of money earmarked for kid expenses.?"

What I don't like is how immediately angry I got.

We will be in face-to-face negotiations in March. She'll do these little things, I'm sure. The parsley sprinkling of truth. I will immediately flood with anger.

I also expect she will either bring her BFF, who is absolutely poisonous to the meeting, or a boyfriend.

I don't think I can grey-rock my way through this one yet. I have two months to prepare myself.

What can I do?

RDMercer