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Originally Posted by smileygal
Glad he has responded to you with some understanding LT. It sounds like sometimes he is just activated/triggered by some of your questions/requests and causes him to respond in a less skillful way...Perhaps a mix of personal comfort levels, even maybe attachment style stuff -you attempt to move closer and he pulls back etc... mixed with him trying to uphold the boundaries so become acutely aware of that in the moment.
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Thanks, Smiley. Yeah, I think it's the mix of both of those--comfort level and attachment style.
Today's session did not make me feel safer, as he said he hoped to do in the email. Just made me feel more distant and like just another number in his pile of clients. (Note to people trying to give reassurance: "You're not unimportant" is not overly helpful.") He had an opening tomorrow (otherwise booked, aside from our appointment Thursday), so will try talking again then. Maybe it's pointless, I don't know.