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Originally Posted by InkyBooky
Just a thought, but have you considered reducing sessions to once or twice per week instead of three times per week? That way you're still holding onto the connection and the good parts of therapy with him, but you're less dependent on him to regulate your sense of "safety".
You seem to be a very high functioning adult (not in crisis). Therefore, with even slightly more time between sessions, you could potentially build your own internal sense of resilience and safety that did not depend soo much on his moods and responses. Sure, his responses would still matter to you and your feelings around them would be great sources of therapeutic fodder... but they wouldn't have to destabilize or shake you in the same way. Hope that makes sense.
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That's actually something I'm working toward. I only stuck with 3 times a week for the last few months of the year because I realized that we would hit our insurance out-of-pocket maximum, so the extra sessions would be free, like we'd be paying the same for twice a week vs. three times a week. And I'd intended to reduce starting around now, but my H is having surgery, which is causing increased stress for me. Was supposed to be just twice this week (and last week), but will be three times now.
I hope to switch to twice a week by mid-February, as things settle down. That would also give me space/money to add in something like a weekly yoga class, an art class, or a similar thing, where it's self-care/stress-reducing, but not therapy.