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Originally Posted by RDMercer
The thing is, right now, I'm not good at keeping it together. When I finally began calling out each little manipulation in our final months together, I know I gave her the ammunition and "fix" she was looking for.
I'm so, so on edge when I interact with her.
That also makes my thinking cloudy., which works to her favor.
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Open Eyes is on to something... there is a stage to the anger. It seems like you're in a place where what you're processing is, unfortunately, intersecting with having to deal with her through the court system. Not easy.
I've also learned to take several slow breaths before responding or reacting to anything (even if no one else is around). Focusing for just a moment on breathing/processing the immediate feeling/information coming at you, can help deescalate it and put you back into feeling more in control. Sometimes I'll take a few breaths, and realize that the initial impulse to even respond, is already gone.
