Hey Waterbear,
I'm glad you found a therapist you can work with. If she won't allow touch, I wonder whether you could choose a small object to bring into your session. Perhaps she would be willing to hold that crystal, or stone, or other token for one session, and in subsequent sessions you could hold it...almost like holding her hand but not.
I hope you can find a way forward.
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