Divorce is always an option, isn't it? So sorry you're going through this pain - nothing is more painful than feeling alone and abused within a marriage. He berates you, he calls you names, he insults you, he gives you the silent treatment, he calls you by things he knows you do not like, and he doesn't discuss important issues with you. Those are ALL abusive behaviors.

Can you start to think about a separation and a divorce? I don't think there is anything to salvage here and no reason to try to hang onto such a toxic and unhappy marriage.