Is he being treated for bipolar disorder? And is he in any type of recovery for drug addiction? Addicts are addicts even if they aren’t using. He might be clean but it doesn’t stop him from behaviors that are common for addicts.

Having said all that, it’s his responsibility to get treatment or what not. It’s not your job. I think if people are childless and want to endure abuse, it is their business. But when kids are involved, it gets tricky. They watch dad abusing mom and will think that’s ok. They will have Ms y issues growing up and having their relationships.

If he’s the only one working, courts will award you some alimony and child support and you can rejoin work force after divorce. Divorce doesn’t mean you’ll be homeless and starving. He will have to provide for his kids and likely you until you are on your feet